Things You Probably Haven’t Thought About Asking On A Chat Line
You may have the basics covered like religion, family goals, ambitions, etc. But here are some more conversation topics you should think about when deciding whether or not you and your chat line partner are actually compatible! Asking these questions early on in the phone dating relationship will set you up for success in a long-term relationship. Far too often, people ignore these questions and it bites them in the bum later!
Remember, you have had a phone dating relationship up to this point, so you haven’t had to adjust to one another’s ways of life and friends and habits and quirks just yet. This one shouldn’t make or break you, as you should be able to compromise in order to build and keep a successful relationship going, but it’s something to take into consideration. Does your lovebug love staying out until 4AM at a loud club every Friday and Saturday night? Do you enjoy staying home with a nice crossword puzzle and snuggling into bed by 9PM? Well, it’s time to talk about that. We can tell you from experience, two opposites such as this can absolutely work, but it’s going to take work in order to make it work. How many times can you say work in a sentence? I think Rihanna has us beat. Work work work work work.
What do you like to do with your spare time? Do you dive into hobby after hobby? Are you an adrenaline junkie? Are you a homebody who likes to sleep in on the weekends? Do you like to travel? You don’t want to delve into an unhealthy relationship that brings out the worst in you, (AKA sitting around drinking beers on an empty stomach, play pool and watching TV every day,) but rather one that brings out the best in you. Will they challenge you and help you to grow even while having fun or are they walking through life just a bit too complacent? Access the situation. Decide what to do from there.
How do you deal with adversity? How do you deal with an off day, a fight, a misunderstanding….? Do you need your time to process or do you like to talk it out in the heat of the moment? There are so many ways you should be helping to care for your partner, (not because they need you to, but because you want to,) and this is just one of those ways. By asking all of these questions you will better understand how and why they are reacting the way they are reacting. It will teach you what they need in those hard moments. And vice-a-versa.
We think that this goes without being said, but you shouldn’t bombard your love interest with all of these questions at once, nor should you ask these within the first few times you speak to one another. It can be a bit off-putting, not to mention a red flag if you come on too strong and are ready to jump in prior to getting to know the person on the other end of the line. There is nothing wrong with taking your time. Plus, aren’t you just wasting time by asking these questions repeatedly to people that are nowhere near being “the one” for you? Think about that next time you think you’ll save time by jumping into the deep end instead of wading in at a perfectly acceptable pace.