Quarantine Is Making Me Miss My Chat Line Ex… What Should I Do?

By Brad Jeffries on July 14th, 2020 in Dating

Why is the quarantine making me miss my chat line ex?

Quarantine is stirring up many mixed emotions for tons of people, so it’s no wonder why there are folks who are missing their chat line exes. They might be pondering their ex on a daily basis, or even dreaming about their ex! Not only is isolation a trigger for loneliness, but there’s also a surge of social media use where couples are posting the ‘great times’ they are having together while in isolation. It’s enough to make a single person question their recent phone dating breakup. It’s like… why not reach out and phone date again? It’s a shame that people who are single and don’t want to be are forced to be alone during this time, but getting back together with an ex simply because of the quarantine is very toxic. Chat line exes, in particular, are especially interesting when it comes to this because chat line couples are somewhat used to dating from afar anyways (provided they never got deep into the meeting in-person stage in the relationship)


Should I reach out to my chat line ex?

These are completely unprecedented times. They are stirring up vulnerability, anxiety, and sadness in many people. Isolation is also magnifying loneliness. Our recommendation would be strongly against reaching out to an ex during this time simply because the thoughts you have about your ex right now might be motivated by the feelings the isolation is causing, and not actual loving feelings. If there was no desire to be with your ex before quarantine, it would seem that the pandemic is speaking for your feelings in this case. However, every person is unique. Every relationship is unique. This is not a one-size-fits-all situation. If you decide that you are without-a-doubt wanting to get back together with an ex, sit down with your thoughts for several days before taking the plunge. And when you do, make sure you are calm in your communication.


Why is/isn’t OK to say or do?

Meeting up in person isn’t really ok or responsible right now. If you and your chat line ex made it off of the phone dating line and onto texting, we would advise you to shoot a text to your ex asking for a time to talk. Let them know in the text message that you are having second thoughts about the breakup. This will give your ex the chance to consider the idea of getting back together for themselves before chatting with you. You must also respect their decision and refrain from begging or being needy. Then, when you are both ready, you should have a phone call. That way, you’ll be able to be as intimate and raw as possible during a conversation that you’ve had a chance to think over. Texting, if you’ve made it to that stage of the chat line relationship, about it can get too convoluted.


So, I want to get back together with my chat line ex. What should I do?

If you know that this is something you want to do, make sure to have a calm and open-minded conversation with your ex. Be as honest as possible about the situation, and keep their feelings in mind too. The relationship ended for a reason, so consider what the toxicity was that ended the relationship. If its not healthy for your ex to re-engage, don’t force it.  Question the feelings that you have. Make sure that this is what you really want, and not the loneliness or isolation talking. Healthy relationships are born out of true feelings and mutual understandings. They are not driven by fear or loneliness.


So, I have decided against contacting my chat line ex. What should I do?

This is an easy one… CALL ANOTHER CHAT LINE! Seriously! Chat lines are full of people who have recently gone through a breakup and they are wonderful places to meet people and chat. They are pretty much the safest and most intimate forms of dating right now, which is what makes them such a great viable option for folks who are looking to date and connect during these uncertain times. Getting back into the dating chat line game is going to boost your self-esteem and make you feel like you are a part of the world again, the dating world at least. Don’t hesitate to get back out there. You don’t need your ex to avoid feeling lonely in quarantine. You just need someone else to talk to, someone else who might be feeling all the things you are feeling right now! The timing couldn’t be better for chat line daters frankly, because everyone is at home and searching for a way to connect and communicate! Try out some of those new pick up lines you’ve acquired since your past relationship!  Don’t miss out on another chance at love by wasting time with your ex.


I’m nervous to get back out there!

Chat lines are built for people who are a little nervous when it comes to dating. This is because you can remain in the comfort of your own home and do it. You don’t have to deal with societal pressures. And, if you find yourself on a bad phone date, you can simply move on without worrying that you were rude or did something wrong. It’s obviously not helpful for us to advise you to “not be nervous,” however, there’s nothing to worry about. Get back out there! You might be surprised to find that others are calling the same line you are looking for the same type of connection.

(If you like this, you’ll love How To Use a Chat Line To Get Over An Ex)