How To Sound Dateable on a Chat Line

By Brad Jeffries on April 29th, 2020 in Chat LinesDating

Phone chat can be used for all sorts of things, like friendship and phone sex. But, most often, chat lines are used for the purposes of finding someone worthwhile to date. This might be the prince charming of your dreams, who can be your superhero. Or, maybe you’re looking for that sweetheart woman, who has the charm of a queen. At the end of the day, it’s just that one person who makes you smile, right? Whatever you are into or looking for, chat lines have it. There are thousands upon thousands of callers every single day into chat lines, so there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be finding your special mate. But, lots of people have trouble or don’t even realize that they are making some crucial mistakes while engaging with others on chat lines. They call and call and call, at all hours of the day, but can’t seem to land their soulmate. And, it doesn’t mean that these people are unbeatable, but maybe they are sending the wrong signals to the people they are chatting with on the lines. Maybe their greeting is throwing people off, or they are sending out mixed signals, or spouting off things that are raising red flags in the mind of their matches. We want you to find your chat line honey. We really just want you to be happy! So, we’ve taken the time to interview some chat line users to try and figure out what makes someone sound datable on a phone chat platform. We’ve taken the most common and frequently discussed answers to heart and have come up with a guide for you so that you can sound super datable on the phone!


The greeting

To sound datable in your chat line greeting, you are going to want to cover the basics. If you need help coming up with a chat line greeting, just remember that it’s not that complicated. You want to introduce yourself, let people know what you’re looking for (a serious relationship) and perhaps add a fun fact for personality. Trying to sound too sexy is going to send the wrong message, and sounding totally bland is going to be a turn-off. So, try to find that happy medium that attracts other people looking for a relationship. Try to sound fun-loving, stable, and charming!


Not sounding desperate

Some people are so eager to find someone to date on a chat line that they end up sounding really desperate and needy, which is a serious no-no in the art of seduction. You don’t want to completely shut down or erase all vulnerability. You can make statements about the fact that you are looking for a romantic partner (and at Chatline Connect we actually encourage it!), but try to avoid sounding way too eager. You’ll end up pushing people away.


Toning down the sexy talk

There are erotic chat lines and party lines for naughty conversations. So, if you aren’t looking for anything serious, call one of these! There are also some chat lines with naughty reputations, so you can try those as well. But, if you are looking for something serious, getting all sexual in the first chat is going to send the completely wrong signal. Try to tone down the erotic chat, or save it for when you are calling an erotic chat line.


Sounding like a positive person

People call in to chat lines sometimes because they are feeling lonely or down, and that’s ok. It’s there for you to express yourself if you need it. We just want you to be careful about sounding like a downer on the phone. Negativity is contagious and many callers are not into catching it. Laughing and even smiling is really important when trying to find ‘the one’ on a chat line. Happy people are seen as very attractive dating options!


These four things are what people commented on the most. They don’t want to date someone that sounds too needy or is ready to jump their bones before getting into some deep conversation. They want a stable person who can be their romantic anchor. While these were the most popular responses from our interviewed pool of chat line members, there were, of course, some honorable mentions that we think would help you boost your chat line dating game…

  • Don’t turn the chat line session into a therapy session
  • Make sure you’re an active listener
  • Don’t be pushy for information
  • Brush up on your witty banter skills
  • Laughing is everything
  • Save the drama for your mama
  • Play some question games
  • Keep it light and fun
  • Talk about the future
  • Try to sound stable
  • If it seems awkward, don’t bring it up
  • Laugh through awkward silences
  • Don’t call when you can’t 100% focus on the call
  • Don’t call with screaming kids in the background
  • Don’t ask about someone’s zodiac sign
  • Don’t interrogate someone or make the call feel like an interview
  • Make a plan to talk in the future if you like someone
  • Don’t talk about an ex or a past relationship


Another huge point is that there are specific chat lines for specific groups of people. For example, if you are a Latin person looking to be in a relationship with another Latin person, then you should call a Latin chat line! This should be a no-brainer, but tons of people forget about it. The biggest mistake is that gay people call straight chat lines when they know they aren’t going to find what they are looking for. They should, of course, be calling a gay chat line. Whatever you are looking for, whether it be race, religion, sexuality, etc., there’s likely a phone chat service out there for like-minded local members of the community who you can establish a real connection with.


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